Menage Monday Post 5 Xakara

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Welcome to Michael's. I'm very happy to have Xakara on for menage Monday once again. Her posts have been quite a learning experience! Lets see what she has to say this week!

Writing From the Middle : Ménage on Film

Greetings, Kittens!

Happy LGBT History Month! Only a few days in and I’ve already had some very interesting conversations on queer cinema and the depiction of LGBTQ characters on screen, (big and small). This led to the discussion of polyamory—or more often ménage—as depicted on film. Much to my surprise, we all agreed on one movie being a favorite as it depicted ménage and fluid sexually, the 1994 Threesome staring Josh Charles, Lara Flynn Boyle and Stephen Baldwin.

I was surprised, because there are so many problems with this movie and yet it remains one of my favorite multi-partner love scenes to date. It’s a very brief love scene, it comes much later in the movie and everything goes south afterwards, but I love it all the same. I also love how it all develops over time.

Stuart (Stephen Baldwin), Eddy (Josh Charles) and Alex (Lara Flynn Boyle) end up as roommates in a student apartment because housing mistakenly thinks Alex is male. It gets off to the inevitable rocky start, but they eventually end up growing quite close. Their friendship becomes so tight knit that they begin to push out all other people. They barely notice the isolation, because beneath the friendship a non-traditional love triangle forms. Over-sexed, jock Stuart wants femme-fatale Alex, who wants intellectual Eddy, who wants loud, horn-dog Stuart.

There are some cringe-worthy moments, some misunderstandings, and some experimentation for the virginal Eddy. But within all of it is their genuine affection for each other as they grow ever closer. I loved the fact that they never balk at the natural progression of physical closeness. All of their issues are caused by external judgment and it doesn’t stop them from finally making their way to bed.

On the sex side of things, what captured my heart in Threesome is a four-second sequence in their love scene that meant everything. In it, the ultra-straight Stuart is on one side of our female lead Alex, while gay-identified-yet-confused Eddy is on the other side. As with any multi-person sexual scenario, where not everyone is equally involved, there comes a time where you have to figure out where to put your hands. Eddy hesitantly places his hand on Stuart’s hip and then just as quickly removes it. In a beautifully shot moment that conveyed everything they meant to each other, Stuart takes Eddy’s hand and places it back on his hip. Now it was 1994, so the fact that they got just that much past the censors is a triumph, we certainly don’t see anything more transpire between Stuart and Eddy, but we don’t really need to. The implication and the natural progression are more than enough to know that at the very least, everyone is emotionally and physically taken care of. That scene and the care the director took in filming and editing the moment , completely makes up for everything I dislike about the movie—such as the fact that it ultimately doesn’t work out.

They get so close and yet can’t let go of the idea that a lesson or moral about “relationships on the fringe” and the consequences. But for its time period, Threesome is a breakout that shows just now naturally one can come to love more than one person at a time, and how that love can make a relationship only seem complete in multiple.

I love the upswing in ménage scenarios becoming true polyamorous relationships in romance novels. I’m thrilled by it! But film and television has a power and ability all it’s own when it comes to conveying the idea of polyamory as viable and legitimate. I think the stories we write as MMF/MFM/FFM authors will truly find their audience when we write them for the screen. It’s only when people see the idea of unnamed feelings they’ve always had, that they begin to feel as if their particular path to happiness is a real and attainable one. Multiple lovers in a respectful and joyful relationship is not a fantasy, it’s a family dynamic being lived out every day and being longed for by those who don’t about it.

We should tell them.

So, Kittens, do you have a favorite ménage movie? Do you want there to be more movies on the topic? Should we ease into with heterosexual poly movies, or do you think the public could handle a Bisexual polyamory relationship and love scene on screen? Weigh in!

This Ramble is Done, Kittens!

~X

http://www.xakara.com

BIO: 

Xakara is an openly bisexual, poly author. Her works include SHIFTING PASSONS ( A Therian World Novella), out with Samhain Publishing. A WAY TO A DRAGON’S HEART (A Therian World Novel) coming October 2011 by Liquid Silver Books. GHOST OF CHRISTMAS PAST (PsiCorps Book 1), out with Liquid Silver Books and DAWN’S EARLY LIGHT (PsiCorps Book 2) released July 2011 by Liquid Silver Books.

Menage Monday Xakara Post 3

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Welcome to a holiday edition at Tabooindeed. Not taking the day off though since this is Xakara's third Menage Monday post.


I hope you're enjoying them so far. I know I am. Let's give her the floor.

Writing From the Middle: Girls Who Like Guys Who Like Guys

Greetings, Kittens!

There have been numerous, (although nowhere near enough), articles on the phenomena of women writing M/M romance. This isn’t another one...exactly. If writing gay romance brings curiosity, bisexual romance seems to outright boggle the mind of the uninitiated. 

The divide between ménage that features two straight men focused on a straight woman and ménage that features a loving triad of bisexual men and a sexually open woman, all equally engaged, is much larger than you might imagine. Once the men become involved the questions seem to be aimed not only at the author, but also at the heroine. Why would a woman want to be with a man who also enjoys other men? And what kind of woman writes about it?

Both questions play into an assumption—that men and women are inherently different in what turns them on. Yes, men tend to be more visual while women are more relational, but that in no way means that neither is like the other. The largest growing segment of viewers, producers, directors and writers of pornography are women. In turn, men are reading more romance, buying more tickets to romantic comedies and filling out more dating profiles aimed at long term relationships. We may ultimately be flying different flags, but everyone on the gender spectrum is sailing the exact same waters towards their personal fulfillment.

Among male-identified viewers of pornography and readers of erotica who are sexually attracted to women, the fantasy of two women together still outstrips every other. The reasons are varied, but the highlight reel most often comes down to three things; mystery, ego and security. 

The Mystery: seeing two, (or more), women together gives an insight that men may otherwise never be granted. 

The Ego: the two women in question in the fantasy are always waiting for the male to join and fulfill them in every way. 

The Security: two women allow for complete immersion in female pleasure without the need to feel in competition with, or to be compared to, the well endowed male that would otherwise grace the screen or page.

For female-identified readers and watchers interested in men, those same three things are fulfilled in MM romance, but the focus is slightly different. 

The Mystery: How do men relate to each other sexually? Is there tenderness? Is it rough and tumble? Do they walk away without a second thought? Or are they able to let go in a way rarely seen? All of these questions come forward and if done right, are answered to a degree—at least in fantasy. 

The Ego: Let’s face it, no matter how you identify, if sex interests you, the fantasy of two people turning their devotions upon you to service your every need, well, works with whatever gender expressions make you smile! 

The Security: In visual medium as well as on the page, a perfect heroine can make a reader feel inadequate. Worse than inadequacy, a heroine that’s Too Stupid To Live can make a reader feel embarrassed for herself and everyone that shares her gender identity. One solution to avoid these pitfalls is to take the heroine out of the picture all together...and the focus on MM romance is born.

So what happens when the ego and security portions don’t apply? What’s going on when the female reader and writer want to focus on men together, but still have a heroine front and center, (or to either side, you know, whatever works), to the relationship? It’s one thing to have the heroine the only thing that matters to her two love-struck heroes, but what’s the appeal of those heroes being just as into each other? Why would a woman want to compete with one hero for the attention of the other and why would someone want to read it? In a word? Equality. But first, the misconception.

Bisexual ménages are not a competition by the virtue of being bisexual ménages. Neither the heroine nor either hero is in competition for the affections of others in the triad. They are coming together in a polyamorous sharing that puts the relationships on equal footing. The men and women depicted on the page are compared and contrasted in the context of the overall relationship, and at least in the case of my bisexual polyromances, this context both reveals the mystery of men together, and highlights a love of strength and competence exuded by the women in their lives.

When male characters are written as also loving men, those same male traits can be exhibited by female characters without being intimidating. In turn, feminine traits can be exhibited by male characters without invalidating masculinity or femininity as it is viewed by our third presence. The playground of sexual identity and gender expression opens wide once you are not constrained by the either/or of gay or straight romance. Strong, dominant, even aggressive women can stand tall beside men of the same alpha caliber and be loved because of those traits, rather than in spite of them. Or a heroine can submit and kneel beside a likewise submissive beta male, her surrender an act of love and inclination, rather than one of gender.

Because we read, write and live in a patriarchy, we move along the shores of assumptive hetero-normative and gender-normative privilege and persecutions. Although entirely separate from one another, sexual orientation and gender identity are coupled so closely that you cannot move through one without resonating within the other. In my belief, among the many reasons out there, more female readers and writers are turning to bisexual romance and bisexual fiction as a whole to escape normative constraints.

Once you free the hero from heteronormative assumption, you free the heroine from gender-normative assumption. When the narrowness of masculinity expands for the hero, femininity expands for the heroine, and both ends of the spectrum begin to merge, freeing the characters, the reader and the writer, to explore without the shackles of traditional definition. We cease to work within the tiny confines of the masculine or feminine shore and wade into the river of individual expression. In short, the medium allows us to see women more like ourselves or who we’d like to be.

Okay, Kittens, I used the word shackles above, it’s time to go before this becomes an exploration of how freeing masculinity is the new feminist frontier. Instead let me wrap by saying that most readers and writers of bisexual romance aren’t intentionally trying to be subversive. Fortunately, they benefit from the subversiveness of redefining masculinity in the gray area of bisexuality between the black and white of the gay-straight divide. In doing so, they make space to elevate femininity to reflect the real faces of women who neither swoon at the sight of a muscle-bound, bright-eyed poster boys for male virility, nor eschew all male company to prove their strength and independence. Women who are just women in a modern world who have been taught to shoulder as much or more than men, but who also have no qualms with a fifties femininity from time to time, along with everything in between.

If all of that is a little too deep this early on a Monday, here’s my other answer. Women like men who like men cuz it’s hot! There, better? *grin*

Girl-on-Guy-on-Guy Ramble ~ Done!

~X

Tell me, Kittens, why do you read or write MMF? If it’s not your thing, why do you think others do? And if you’ve been following along with our Menage Monday’s and other Writing From the Middle segments, what else about writing Bi-Poly ficiton would you like to me to explore or to go back and touch on in more depth?

http://www.xakara.com

Menage Monday Post 2 - Xakara

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Welcome to menage Monday where I'm happy to have on good friend and fellow author Xakara with her biweekly post.


Let's give her a listen and please be sure to comment.

Writing From the Middle: From Bromance to Romance

Greetings, Kittens!

Welcome back to Ménage Monday and another Writing From the Middle segment. Today I’d like to talk about love triads vs. love triangles and the progression from bromance to romance.

Fiction of every stripe has made use of the love triangle since we sat around camp fires, huddled against the night. The oldest love triangles are often centered around brothers who love the same woman. This is in part because the relationship between brothers has always fascinated us. The rivalry, the intensity, the fierce loyalty and the sacrifice between brothers has been part of an epic tapestry that stretches as far back as Remus and Romulus and even further to Osiris and Set.

Competition for a mate meets competition for familial attention and recognition when the brother dynamic is wed to the love triangle. The explosive possibilities for betrayal and even lethal retaliation raises the stakes. Higher stakes means a greater interest in the outcome and so we tell the stories over and over again. In modern Western culture, the minutia may change but the story is inevitably the same, with the more heroic brother winning the girl, sacrificing the relationship for his brother, or dying by his brother’s hands. As many ways as this can be spun, it does inevitably require an upgrade. Step in...the best friend triangle.

Close male relationships were once the norm, especially among the educated elite. Time spent with ones intellectual peers was considered beneficial—even necessary—and these relationships were fostered at every turn. Meant to mirror siblingship and even exceed it, close bond friendships still honored their origins. This lead to the widespread formation of brotherhoods among scholars and tradesmen and terms like brothers-in-arms for those who served together in military ranks.

Where brothers-by-birth are meant to compete, chosen brothers inspire a different, deeper loyalty. After all, these men lack the history of a childhood being compared to each other, trying to outdo each other or feeling inadequate in one another’s presence. And if any of these elements are present, well it simply fortifies the connection since in the end these two people chose to remain close. As a result, these are the relationships meant to endure. And they usually do—until a woman arrives to tear it all apart.

Be she divine angel or evil temptress, if you listen to the stories, historically women are the most destructive force to close male relationships. In part, this mirrors the severing of childhood ties for adult marriage, elevating sexual and reproductive relationship above all others. Its vilification represents the resentment to growing up and relinquishing the carefree days of bachelorhood. It is also a visceral response to leaving the company of the knowable masculine for the unknowable feminine. But what do you expect when for so long men wrote the tales and sung the songs? So what happened when women took up the pen?

Well, for the most part they wrote about relationships between women, but when romance finally made its way onto the pages, the love triangle was alive and well. For women, the perfect love triangle existed when both men adored the heroine but held disdain for one another. In this way, the heroine was not culpable in altering heart-held ties. In fact, in early works men rarely had any heart-held ties. Instead there are many gothic, brooding counts, widowers who would never love again and otherwise grumpy, gruff alpha males all waiting for the right woman to come along. Ever so often we get the dueling noblemen, figuratively or literally, competing to make the virginal heroine swoon.

It would take more time than I have here to breakdown exactly what happened with male friendships but sufficient to say in America, the rise of the labor class, military careers, isolated suburbs with long commutes and a general nose to the grindstone mentality changed our definitions of masculinity. Real men worked and provided for their families and didn’t have time to sit down and talk about feelings “like a bunch of women”. Emotional interaction was a luxury men didn’t have and more and more adult male relationships were reduced to alcohol fueled laments on life or sports analogies where no one asked anything deep, least they be viewed as less than men. This is not just a caricature women see about men, but a true loss men have expressed in their relationships and one finally taking a turn again.

We got our first taste of changing male relationships in the 1970s and fiction followed suit, but it was not to last through the cutthroat ‘80s. Romance fiction held on however and filling in the gap with the return of the brother themed love triangle in full force. The 1990’s introduced the “sensitive male” personae and held out emotional security and intimate connection as sexy. As a byproduct, men not only connected with women better than they had all century, they actually began to connect with other men on a genuine level. After the near-cannibalistic everyone-out-for-themselves ‘80’s, the ‘90’s saw the resurrection of the male best friend.

As a result, Hollywood gave us the buddy comedy in abundance, while television and romance novels gave us the best-friend love triangle. Even in print these relationships always played it safe and resolved in one of two ways. Most often they resolved into a heterosexual pairing where love had conquered all and there were no regrets concerning the now discarded male. When that was too predictable, they were momentarily subversive where all parties tried to make it work through loads of angst only to arrive at the inevitable course correction of a tragic ending. The overriding message? That the heroine must choose or fate would chose for her, often with the subtlety of a cross-town bus out of nowhere.

For those of us who hate the love triangle trope things seemed hopeless. Then came the new millennium and the rise of the ménage. Suddenly, on the page at least, the heroine didn’t have to choose. These best friends, and sometimes even brothers, could find a way to share and prosper rather than destroy everything between them by competing. Of course sharing didn’t always mean enduring love. Most ménage fiction as early as three years ago still held with the one-off sexual adventure from which everyone eventually came to their senses.

It’s been a short jump between ménage and polymory and those one-off encounters blossomed on the page into full relationships. They aren’t yet abundant but I believe they will be as male relationships continue to grow closer. Currently, Hollywood has taken notice of evolving connections between men and we see the rise of the man-crush, the man-date and the bromance on screens big and small. Is it any wonder that more love triads have also been published and more and more of those have been MMF where the men love each other as much as the heroine?

I’m not expecting Hollywood to jump on the bi-male bandwagon tomorrow, but the first few sincere offerings can’t be that far behind. For now, I’ll take the acknowledgement of being in love with more than one person and fully wanting relationships with both of them, as a great start. Right now, it appears that paranormal fiction will be our answer on the screen to inspire more authors to put it on the page.

*Spoiler Alert* The triangle in The Vampire Diaries is built upon the premise that both Salvator brothers are loved by Elena, as they were by her predecessor Katherine. At the close of the season, her acceptance of this seemed imminent. Most recently on True Blood, Sookie openly admitted to being in love with both Eric and Bill and actively wanting both of them. Both are classic triangles, but neither come with the imperative of old to, “choose or else”. Without this imperative, the outcome of not only choosing both but actively pursuing it to a positive conclusion becomes natural. The idea is there and ripe for exploration.

Once they successfully cross the line into working polyamory on a popular show, it’s just a short hop, skip and jump from the male intimacy of bromance to that of romance. Happy Hopping!

~X

http://xakara.com/

Menage Monday Debut - Xakara

Good morning fans.


Welcome to Michael's where today I have a new segment beginning today called menage Monday with fab author and friend, Xakara.


She'll be posting Biweekly here and I'm really excited to have her input on menage and poly relationships and romance. 


Please enjoy her first post.

Writing From The Middle: Poly Normalcy

Greetings, Kittens!

I’d like to thank Michael for inviting me to become a regular guest on Ménage Mondays. I look forward to sharing my thoughts with all of you twice a month on what it means to be writing from the middle!

Today we’re going to talk about polyamory, in particular what it means to write poly romance. When I began writing my paranormal ménages, I never considered them kinky and I still don’t. That viewpoint has led to some wonderful conversations on the whys and wherefores of how multi-partner romances are promoted and perceived.

The first problem is the terminology. I write poly romance but that’s not an industry category. Anytime you have more than two people in the relationship it’s labeled ménage. Ménage fantasies made their debut in erotica where it was about the novelty of the sex and the taboo of the good girl breaking free and exploring her naughty side with two men. It came with all of the explorations that had only been found in pornography until that moment; voyeurism, anal sex, double penetration, all the taboos that didn’t make it into your mother’s romance books.  

As a subgenre, ménage has grown substantially since making the transition from sex-as-exploration erotica, to sex-for-sex-sake erotica, to happily-ever-after romances, but it’s still in the awkward teen years. There’s a lot of giggling and misinformation and adherence to the concept of the naughtiness beneath it all—especially when there is bisexual content. The problem is that ménage still reads as taboo and taboo still reads as kinky, and much marginalization ensues. Polyamory is not kink at it’s base, it’s just an extra scoop of vanilla. I’m willing to go as far as French Vanilla because it bucks mainstream expectations, but it’s not kink by any means and it shouldn’t be automatically treated as such.

Moving menage from naughty romance to simply poly romance, will take a few more years and the dedication of those authors and readers who want to see it represented on the same spectrum as mainstream het romance. I’ve been in discussions that have come down to the idea that ménage is about the sex and polyamory is about the relationships. That’s good and well, and it’s the reason I use the term poly romance, but since the industry only uses menage, it has to cover both and the terms have to become as interchangeable as they’re currently used.

The above usually leads to the question: “But how can you say that polyamory isn’t kinky?” It’s easy, here, I’ll type it again. Polyamory isn’t kinky. See, not hard at all. Are there some kinky people who are also polyamorous? Of course. Kink is such a broad term that everything you’ve done has a kinky person associated with it, and everyone you’ve met likely has at least on trigger tripped by something that could be considered kinky. This isn’t about kink being bad or wanting to disassociate from it. My Freak Flag flies high and proud and kink is one of the stripes. Feel free to pledge allegiance at will. I’m not trying to dodge the label, I’m saying that the label doesn’t fit.

Let’s look at the word kink for a second. Here’s the dictionary.com definition with the current slang bolded for ease of reference:

Kink

noun

1. a twist or curl, as in a thread, rope, wire, or hair, caused by its doubling or bending upon itself.

2. a muscular stiffness or soreness, as in the neck or back.

3. a flaw or imperfection likely to hinder the successful operation of something, as a machine or plan: There are still a few kinks to be worked out of the plan before we start production.

4. a mental twist; notion; whim or crotchet.

5. Slang .

a. bizarre or unconventional sexual preferences or behavior.

b. a person characterized by such preferences or behavior.

Now let’s look at the definition of Polyamory.

Main Entry: Polyamory

Part of Speech: Noun

Definition: Participation in multiple and simultaneous loving or sexual relationships with full consent of all parties involved.

All of us are platonic polyamorist! We’ve all loved multiple people simultaneously from family to friends. Community is about loving multiple people and treating them with the courtesy and respect that they deserve. Our society is based on the idea of many loves and only thrives when it encourages and fulfills that inclination.

Most of us are unrequited sensual or sexual polyamorist, sexually committed to one person while lusting after another or others. Most sex therapist consider these mental affairs to be healthy and stimulating as long as they don’t spill over into emotional and sexual affairs.

Many of us outright practice poly behaviors without poly responsibility, in that we’ve been involved in multiple loving and sexual relationships at once. Unfortunately, most people engaged in several relationships don’t do so in an open and honest manner. They cheat. To be poly, by definition, is to consult and agree to move forward in those relationships that move and fulfill you to the betterment of all parties involved.

To me, sneaking around, lying and deceiving is twisted, bent, flawed and bizarre sexual behavior, so heterosexual cheating is the kinkiest thing going!

Polyamory, on the other hand, is merely removing the artificial sexual boundaries on those emotionally intimate relationships that are otherwise ignored by society at large. As well as a matter of relinquishing the fallacy that one person is meant to be your absolute everything without another person on earth ever fulfilling other needs. Polyamory, done right, is sincerity. It’s living out loud and there shouldn’t be anything unconventional about it!

Now let’s bring it back to poly romance and the inevitable commentary of: “But I don’t get polyamory! One relationship is hard enough, I just can’t see two relationships working.”

Okay, I understand where this originates, but there are two flaws in this approach to looking at poly romance. The first is the belief that not getting something must mean it doesn’t work. None of the people I talked to were astrophysicist or in related fields, but their lack of understanding the math behind it didn’t make astrophysics suddenly poof into non-existence. I don’t get hard-right conservatives and yet they continue to go about doing their hard-right conservative things. It happens, the world is bigger than what we get on a given subject.

Second, polyamory, in particular, polyfidelity, is one relationship with multiple dynamics. It’s like any family where you have the unit relationship and then the individual dynamics between each person. No one stops to wonder: “how can you have two children, one is hard enough, I don’t see how it can work out.” That’s because we understand that in a family, you juggle everyone’s needs and the longer you’re together the easier this becomes as you get to know each other. Sometimes it works out and families are close, sometimes it doesn’t and holiday and birthday cards would be a set up. It’s about the family not about the numbers. Poly families are FAMILIES, regardless of their individual relationship dynamics and approaching the idea as such relieves most of the confusion involved and shows just how normal it is.

Are poly relationships hard work? Of course they are, all relationships are hard work depending on where you are in understanding yourself and each other. But romances aren’t about the hard work, they’re about an ideal version of relationships or relationship resolution—no matter how many people are involved. I don’t expect anyone to take the smooth poly relationship dynamics in my stories as gospel, any more than I expect them to take the shape-shifters as such. I’m realistic for the culture and characters I’m bringing together, but no ménage is meant to be a relationship guide to polyamory.

Ménage romance author write exactly what non-ménage romance authors write, an idealized version of love the way it should be and could be. We leave the way it most often is, to the non-fiction self-help shelves and the daytime talk shows. Readers want the happily ever after because it helps to reminds us that we can make our own happily ever afters in our lives. I write poly romance because poly readers deserve that reminder of hope just like monogamous readers do. They deserve to see what it can look like when allowed to be all it can be and there are too few examples out in mainstream entertainment. Although there are a few stealth stories out there.

I just watched the last installment of the Harry Potter series and I’ve been astounded by the amount of emotion displayed in myself and others as it all came to an end. I was a young adult in my twenties when the phenomena hit, so where I didn’t “grow up” with Harry Potter, I “grew into myself” over the course of the books and movies. My combination of youth and age gave an interesting viewpoint on the story arc as a whole. It was about coming of age, about facing down destiny, about good triumphing over evil, about connection and about courage. But ultimately, Harry Potter was a love story.

It touched on the love of self as Harry embraced his destiny, Hermione embraced her limitations and Ron embraced his ordinariness, each finding that they were so much more than the those parts of themselves. It touched on the love of friends as the three of them faced down death time and again without ever wavering, (save for a horcrux induced issue or three), from their task in support of each other. It touched on the love of family as the Weasleys open their home to Harry and Hermione, making them honorary Weasleys in the face of both celebration and strife, until in the end they become true children and siblings of the redheaded clan. It touched on love of community, beautifully portrayed in the movie during the final showdown at Hogwarts as nearly the entire school and more came together.

None of the ultimate outcomes to Harry’s adventures could have been accomplished without the vast network of loved ones who threw in together to see it done. And Harry himself would have never survived without both of his best friends at his side every step of the way. It took three of them to make it work, so in the end Harry Potter is not only a love story, it’s a poly love story. One of the most sweeping poly stories in YA fiction and the fact that no one calls it that shows just how natural the concept of love in multiple making us stronger truly is.

One day, another story will crop up, perhaps in time for my grandchildren to grow up reading the whirlwind saga of three best friends defeating darkness. But in the epilogue to that story, as they stand together sending their children off in the world, those three characters will end up together. A family as strong as their adventures. When that day comes, polyamory will have become poly normalcy. On that day I’ll know it was worth all the questions, confusions and criticisms that come, with writing from the middle.

Poly Normalcy Ramble ~ Done!

So what do you think about the normalcy of polyamory, even if it’s not for you?

~X

Xakara is an openly bisexual, poly author. Her works include GHOST OF CHRISTMAS PAST (PsiCorps Book 1), and DAWN’S EARLY LIGHT (PsiCorps Book 2), out with Liquid Silver Books. SHIFTING PASSONS ( A Therian World Novella), out with Samhain Publishing. A WAY TO A DRAGON’S HEART (A Therian World Novel) coming October 2011 by Liquid Silver Books. BLOODSPRITE (A Therian World Novel) coming 2012.