Saturday, June 25, 2011

Taboo Tens: Day Twenty Five Reader Post Sheila Gallagher!




Good Morning!


Welcome to day Twenty Five of the Taboo Tens!


Today, I have another fan blog from a lady I love. She or Sheila has been one of my biggest supporters. She’s commented on my blogs wherever I went and supported my guests when they’ve done guest posts here and at Rawiya’s.


She is quite the sweetheart, and here she is doing a guest blog.


We’re also giving away a copy of LA Witt’s AJ’s Angel!


Take it away Sheila!


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I read most genres and do not limit or censor what I read. As long as the story hooks me I’ll read it. So why do I read male/male romance? I’m a relative newcomer to male/male literature. It started at RT 2008 in Pittsburgh. This was the first time I saw what was available outside traditional male/female stories. I got a few free books and met a few authors at RT and, being the book whore I am, I decided to try them. What I found is a wonderful genre with lots of undiscovered authors and books. The sex was hotter but the stories had the same things as traditional romance. It had the meeting of the couple, the conflict, the resolution of the conflict, and either the HEA or HFN. I was hooked. There are differences: no unplanned pregnancies or pressure to get married.




Authors of m/m or ménage romance come across as being more comfortable writing sex. Unless the traditional romance is erotic the traditional authors are not always comfortable writing sex scenes and I can pick that up while reading. The euphemisms drive me crazy. I’m not in high school anymore. I can handle the real words or slang. Being realistic enhances the story.




Coming from a family where certain things are not discussed alternate lifestyle literature has helped me to understand the lifestyle better. With a sister who is lesbian and a brother who is transgendered discovering male/male, female/female, transgendered, and ménage novels have shown me what people go through. Not being gay I often am oblivious to what they go through with others, the prejudice they face, the anger and hatred of others. The big news stories are what I see and I shake my head and wonder how people can be so hateful but I was unaware of the little things. Reading your novels opened my eyes to the small things those living an alternate lifestyle contend with daily.




Your novels have also opened my mind and caused me to consciously think of what my values are, of my tolerance and acceptance levels towards others who live differently than I. While you may have thought you wrote only to entertain me, each time I open one of your books and invite you into my world, as you invite my into your world, a piece of me changes because of your words. I may change my mind about what I thought I knew. I may lose a prejudice. I may learn of something new that causes me to do some research. I may understand the fights you fight and side with you. I have done these things and probably more.




So the flippant answer to why I read m/m romance is it’s taboo and forbidden in the mainstream society where I reside so that makes it hotter. But the thoughtful answer is that I am taught things I would never wonder about. Another world is opened to me and I have to challenge my beliefs about what I thought I knew about life. That’s not a bad idea if it brings acceptance and tolerance to the world.

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Wow. What a blog. OMG. 

That is such a fantastic post. 

She gave so many reasons as to why us writers write and read gay romances and did it so eloquently. Wow, Sheila, you sure you aren't a writer? LOL

Awesome post. I hope all of you enjoyed that...

Here now is a blurb from the book we're giving away from the talented LA Witt!

Taken from Goodreads.


Luke Emerson is the last person Sebastian Wakefield expects to see strolling into his tattoo shop. But Luke’s not back after four years to take up where they left off. Not even to apologize for the cheating that broke them up.
Luke wants a custom tattoo, a memorial for someone known only as “A.J.”. Much as Seb would love to tell Luke to take this ink and shove it, he’s a professional. Plus, he’s reluctant to admit, he wouldn’t mind getting his hands on Luke again. Even if it’s just business.
Once Luke’s in the tattoo chair, though, Seb finds himself struggling with all the anger and resentment he thought he’d left behind—and those aren’t the only feelings reignited. Their relationship may have been turbulent, but it was also passionate. Four years clearly hasn’t been long enough for the embers of that fire to go cold.
A few subtle hints from Luke is all it takes to make Seb consider indulging in some of that physical passion. It shouldn’t be that tough to keep his emotions from getting tangled up in sweaty sheets.
After all, it’s not like he’s in love with Luke anymore. Right?
Warning: Contains two exes who shouldn’t want each other like this, steamy ex-sex they shouldn’t be having, and a whole lot of ink.



15 comments:

Rawiya said...

TY Sheila for your guest post!

I really appreciate it!

Blak Rayne Books said...

Wow Shelia, very awesome. I'm sorry I missed this when it was actually posted. You're a lovely lady and very wise. It's nice to know what the readers think. And thank you for your support.
Great post Rawiya!

Em Woods said...

This was freaking fantastic! Sheila, you made me get a little mushy this morning!

So many great observations and wonderful thoughts here. Gotta share this one.

Rawiya said...

TY Em and Blak for visiting

Eden Winters said...

Oh my, Sheila, how well put, and what a keen observation: M/M romance, banishing prejudice one HEA at a time!

Rawiya said...

Isnt she fab?

Love this woman!

:)

Sharon S said...

AWESOME, wonderful post Sheila! As I was reading it I found myself nodding my head in agreement to just about everything you wrote. While I do not have a transgender in my family, my 25 yr old daughter is gay and has been married (thank you Massachusetts!!) to her partner for a little over a year now. Her coming out to us several years ago was a difficult time for her. Not because she was ashamed of who she was, but she was afraid we would not love her any more. OMG....broke my heart. She is my baby girl, and always will be. It doesn't matter to her dad and I who she loves. Just like our straight son, we just want our children to be happy. Both our children have been lucky to find someone special to spend the rest of their lives with. Our families have been awesome and I know how fortunate we are. No one has shunned her or treated her any differently. For that we are grateful. OK, TMI? Hope not. If so, sorry. But Sheila...well said!

Naughty Nights Press (NNP); Mistress Journals said...

Ironic. I am in the midst if reworking an old m/m story that I'd shelved mainly as I felt it wasn't up to par on today's standards of gay make fiction pretty much because of the lack of outright sex and some of the feelings within the scenes.
Sheila, your insight has just answered a question I was posing to myself. Thank you!
Oh and I would certainly love to win a copy!

She said...

Rawiya,

Thank you for the opportunity to present a reader's side of m/m literature. Thanks also for this blog and your other ones where we can find books and authors often kept out of the mainstream. And, no, I'm no writer--not creative enough.

Blak,

Thank your for your comments. Keep up your Blak Rayne Books blog. I read it often, may not always comment, but I do read it and always learn something.

Em,

Thank you for stopping up. Just trying to give my side of the story.

Eden,

Thank you for your comments. I do my best, not always successfully but sincerely.

Sharon,

Thank you for sharing. What a beautiful story! I'm happy that your children have such a supportive mother and family.

Naughty Nights Press Mistress Journals,

Thank you for stopping by. Rework your story. I think you'll be surprised at the growth in your work.

Oh, and A.J.'s Angel looks good--great cover and blurb.

Monika said...

That was an amazing post, Sheila. *hugs*

Julie Lynn Hayes said...

Wow, Sheila, what a great blog. I found myself nodding and agreeing too as I read. I think that what you said illustrates the basic principle that needs to be gotten across to people in general - that people are people and love is love, and the sooner they stop looking at gay love or lesbian love or transgendered or any other type of love as anything but normal, the sooner we stop focusing on the differences and concentrate on the similarities. We are all people - period. Love is love is love.

After that, there are important issues to work on together - feeding and educating children, housing homeless, employing the unemployed, and maintaining peace in a war-riddled world.

Nice to meet you, Sheila!

Angel Martinez said...

So many people ask the question - and your answer is so honest and thorough. I grew up knowing gay men and women, had gay schoolmates, roommates, co-workers, family and friends. But I think the real turning point as a writer for me came as a mother. What if Matthew Shepard had been my son? What if my own child were denied his rights simply because of who he loves?

If one person sees differently because of what we write, I like to think we've given back something good.

She said...

Monika,

Thank you for reading.

Julie Lynn Hayes

Thank you for your thoughts. Love is love no matter who is involved and we don't have the right to deny someone the right to love or live. There are so many things that need to be fixed in this society, love should not be on that list.

Angel,

Thank you for your comments. I hope others will have open minds and choose to live and let live rather than condemn people who love differently than them. I can only make and live by my choices.

Havan said...

Sheila - I think I love you honey! This was a great blog that I thoroughly enjoyed reading! Thank you for sharing with us. :D

She said...

Havan,

Thanks for stopping by.